Unopened Gifts

Finally a day to say

To remind ourselves

To remember

To speak out loud

How do I forgive myself

That is one unopened gift

How do I have compassion for myself

Yet another unopened gift

We speak in life, I have been able to forgive....another

I can now go on

Yet what is forgiveness?

How do you forgive yourself?

To forgive is to say I have not learned

Compassion will speak that you have learned

You see, it is not about forgiveness at all

Forgiveness says that you will overlook and get over something that hurt you

Whether you did it to yourself or to someone else

It is to say, that you have not learned the lesson so you will forgive the action

And then what?

Do you just go on forgiving forever and not going further as to why you are doing it or allowing someone else to do it to you?

Compassion to yourself, to others, to say, Yes, this happened, whatever it is, and we will learn from it

Compassion to understand the motives, the reasons and to say, I understand why you did this

Is there another way to get what you need

Without hurting yourself or others

In teaching children

There are three rules of discipline to follow

Don't hurt yourself

Don't hurt others

Don't damage or destroy property

That is truth for all of us

If we don't hurt ourselves, we actually do not have a need to hurt others

Damaging or destroying property is usually a byproduct of being hurt

When we forgive ourselves or others we are acknowledging we are hurt or hurt another

Compassion is the step after, we can't just stop at forgiving

Compassion reminds us of the human part, the part where we gain self understanding and love

With words like

I know you didn't mean that

I know you are hurt already

I can see now your intentions are good for me, or maybe they are not

Is this a safe place for me to grow

Or is this teaching me this is not the place for me to stay and learn of life

Forgiveness is like a power play or relief button

Compassion finds a soulution, and landing place, a mutual caring for what results in what has happened

Compassion is the way to get past anyone having to forgive anything

It is the place where we learn why, not just what

Where we see motivation rather than action only

Where we grow within ourselves, then someone else

Self accounting, self love, growth

It all starts in the solutions, not in the answers

Anyone can say yes or no

Yet the parts that say why are the growths

The parts that say why are the teachers

The moments of discovering are when you can go on and live past those moments

There is a vast difference between forgiveness and compassion

Compassion teaches love and forgiveness gives power to someone to grant it

Compassion soothes and grows and forgiveness is saying, I have forgiven you so many times, now what?

The crutches of living in doing and forgiving

Rather than speaking and learning

Breaks the cycle of not paying attention to yourself with excuses

And brings back the questions you had as a child

Why, is one of the greatest questions any child asks and doesn't stop until they find out

It is their happiness so that they can go out and play

They already understand that full disclosure is their freedom

Quietly as we "look" so much smarter than them

Look again, there is still an unopened gift under your tree

It is called Self Love

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