The Guessing Game of Relationships

What is it about relationships that keeps us guessing?

Is it that we want them too bad?

Is it that we are not sure what to do or say?

How could we be so sure in other area's of our lives and then not in a relationship?

It stems from us simply not being sure about being loved

We are not sure how it looks or feel like we can relax in it

We feel like it takes time for us to be "ourselves" rather than just being ourselves

It is funny how we judge ourselves before anyone has a chance to judge us

We know what it is like when we meet someone

And they are relaxed and because of that, we are attracted to them

They don't have to "act" relaxed, they just are

You don't even care what they look like or what they are wearing

You are attracted to their comfort with themselves that you will love initially and grow to love more along the way

We think it is what we wear that day or circumstances, when we say, this happened and I was just...meaning you were caught off guard just being yourself

Our instincts attract us to each other when we are real

When we are not relaxed within ourselves, we try to control the outside of us

With our clothes,

Clever comments

Moments of thinking we have won something

We don't win anything for long if we are not true to our lives and live in the truth of us

I know there is so much to be said for physical appearance

At least initially

And for a great car, or home

At least until you own it

Or a wonderful job,

As long as you love it

However we tend to forget those things when we are not feeling great

And use those things when we feel on top of our game

Yet you are not a game

You are a person

Whose heart is attractable and loving

And could stand on it's own if you let it

And could bring to you all that you want, if you let it

We can not control with our things what to bring to us from others

We can simply be us and attract others who like the us of us

And we can breath in the moments that teach us it is OK to think cleanly

And greater even to live in the life with the lights on

And to feel accepted no matter what

The only time we are not accepted is when we do not accept ourselves

Compassion for yourself is the foundation of love of you

And the love of you is the love that brings others to you

Everyone loves to feel love, and when you feel it, you can see it too!